Well my in laws are here. They are nice people struggling to adjust to life here. I am a nice person trying to adjust to life with them. My husband is a nice person struggling to adjust to life with all of us. LOL - that's quite some struggling all round. The only person who seems really happy with the arrangement seems to be my little one Laasya. Everyone looks to her for joy, fun and to keep peace, in general. Just putting this down in words is cracking me up, seeing how Laasya has just turned one exactly two weeks ago and here we are all grown up adults.
Our differences stem from the fact that we all have different ideas about what food should be. How it is to be prepared and consumed. Added to that is the complexity of generation gap, difference in tastes in terms of pretty much everything from how to dress to how to have fun and what to talk about.
Looking to my husband for reassurance doesn't do much good, because he is limited in his expressive capabilities and my need for reassurance and expression is boundless. I don't really blame him either, since he feels rather helpless (think Ray Barone - although my husband has a lot more respect for his parents in comparison).
Well I can go on about how I feel under-appreciated, unloved, unwanted and useless. But that is not going to help much. And this is exactly the indulgence that I am working to get out of. So instead, I am going to discuss strategies that I plan on adopting.
So food is basic. Everybody needs food, everybody feels strongly about food. So depriving anyone of their food is not going to improve harmony. Instead, I plan on proposing that I will make two versions of food starting today. That way, the basic need is fulfilled and every one is more inclined to an open arrangement regarding other differences. Hungry tummies didn't do anyone any good anyway.
Our differences stem from the fact that we all have different ideas about what food should be. How it is to be prepared and consumed. Added to that is the complexity of generation gap, difference in tastes in terms of pretty much everything from how to dress to how to have fun and what to talk about.
Looking to my husband for reassurance doesn't do much good, because he is limited in his expressive capabilities and my need for reassurance and expression is boundless. I don't really blame him either, since he feels rather helpless (think Ray Barone - although my husband has a lot more respect for his parents in comparison).
Well I can go on about how I feel under-appreciated, unloved, unwanted and useless. But that is not going to help much. And this is exactly the indulgence that I am working to get out of. So instead, I am going to discuss strategies that I plan on adopting.
So food is basic. Everybody needs food, everybody feels strongly about food. So depriving anyone of their food is not going to improve harmony. Instead, I plan on proposing that I will make two versions of food starting today. That way, the basic need is fulfilled and every one is more inclined to an open arrangement regarding other differences. Hungry tummies didn't do anyone any good anyway.
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